Once upon a time, we met our past, our present and our future. We may not remember, I certainly don’t, that day or age of when we became aware of life tenses, how they affected our own life experience. Our past is comprised of a series of choices that led to consequences, our present tense and what I like to call the Right Now, is about being intentional, being sure. Our future, which has not yet happened and a subtle, yet constant glimmer of hope exists, that it will surprise us by turning out better than we expected.
Let’s be realistic, in my experience, the past has always looked more like a 1000 year old book too heavy to open and definitely does not hold the same fascination as the present- or future tense does. When things wouldn’t go according to plan for me, I would open the past tense book easily, to remind myself that this setback too, is not as bad as a previous one – and feel better for a second. Or I would try and console myself by minimising my failure knowing there will be more, this one will find a page in the past tense book, where the rest are. At some point though, I would catch myself wanting to enjoy a glimpse into the past, I knew it was time to snap out of my nostalgia of skewed safety and deluded comfort and get out of past tense thinking. No More Access. Apply some humour to your past tense book, it is a good start to not take it all too seriously – it is all done, things you caused, things you were a part of, things that affected you.
Ah the real time, the present tense, the Right Now. This is intentional existing, mindful living. The Right Now requires you to become aware of yourself, and your state of well-being. You would be taking responsibility for your choices, and understanding consequences. You would have a keen awareness of how you relate to yourself, know your own value, understand your needs, and have a good idea of your own happiness. When you exist in the Right Now, you are filled with gratitude, you have a kinder view of others, and act with compassion (to yourself and others). The way you relate to yourself in this life tense, is extended to how you view and engage with others. This present living allows you to be fulfilled already, allows you to feel good, allows for connecting with others, allows for almost no conditions for yourself to be who you are. What happens in your outer existence, does not affect your happiness and fulfilment, which is based internally.
What does it mean then, to live in the future? I used to own a piece of land in this life tense, and recognised it because I never actually wanted to make a decision that would restrict me, leading to a real outcome – thereby avoiding this from happening. The constant worriers are here, the perpetual procrastinators are here also. Perfectionists who use this, to never commit to action, are here too. See everyone with some kind of fear of choice leading to outcome, hang out here. Not making a decision, means no regret. However life, like nature, grows, it breathes, it moves, it does not stand still. Future tense living usually means we need a wake-up call, and you know what I mean, it’s happened before and is bound to happen again. Trust yourself, like yourself, depend on yourself, make small choices every day, get into the habit of being responsible.
I favour this quote because it invites an open acceptance of the Right Now way of living: ‘Everything is as it should be’ –Buddha
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